We are taking over the world…. two domains at a time!

As we are beginning to get quite popular blog, with over 17,000 views (unbelievable), we thought that we’d make it easier for people to find our blog. We therefore purchased the domains; www.lifeafterdepo.com and www.lifeafterdepo.co.uk. (we are now just waiting for them to go live)

We have also had a redesign, and added a link to our twitter account. So if you aren’t already following us on there, please click the follow button, to keep updated on how we are getting on.

ps baby still not here…. ūüė¶

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Just ordered the Nursery Furniture!!!

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As you are more than likely aware we are in the middle of moving house (so far taken nearly 5 months and haven’t exchanged yet, joy of selling and buying a shared ownership house!). ¬†So we have really waited as long as possible before ordering the cot set, as¬†it would be more to move and could get damaged.

When ordering the Rialto Ivory Set from Mamas and Papas, we really had no choice than get it delivered in 4 weeks time (we really should be in the new place by then) and get it delivered to a family members.  I have however just noticed that Mama and Papas has sent us a receipt to our email address, which says the wrong delivery address, which means I have to take time out to contact them!  We both checked at the time that it had the right address, as for some reason once an order is placed even if its 4 weeks until delivery you cant change the address (I would understand this if it was getting delivered with in a week or so). Another personal hate is the way you spend over £400 and then have to pay delivery!!! I personally think this should be free.

I must now add that I have spoken to Mamas and Papas and they have informed me that we can change the delivery address and date up until 2 weeks before the delivery date. So no need to worry just yet.

On a happier note! 

Why did we choose this Nursery Set??

We have through out pregnancy looked at lots of different shops at the sets they have and the prices, we really liked one from Mothercare, but couldn’t justify spending over ¬£800 on a Nursery Set plus getting a mattress. When we went into Mama and Papas¬†we saw the¬†¬†Rialto Ivory Set¬†and really liked it, however we didn’t have the money and put it down on the “things to buy list”. A close family member offered to buy us a nursery set, so once we saw this set was in a sale with an extra 10% off, we soon ordered it.

In the shop it felt really soild and well made, but this really is another blog once we have the Nursery Set.

Thank you for reading, comments welcome!

40+5 Over Due!!! Where has the time gone?

Sorry for not blogging in such a long time, we have been crazily busy with bump, who has been a lazy so-and-so at times, meaning we have had to take several trips to hospital for monitoring, scans and consultant appointments. We are also still embroiled in the midst of moving house, something which has taken far too long, but that’s story for another blog.

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Finally got a bump, took about 34 weeks to appear, but its a nice little bump all out front, which I think I am very lucky. As, I might be biased, but I think its a lovely bump, with just a few stretch marks at the bottom. Although in the last few weeks it has dropped quite significantly.

What have we been up to lately?

Annoyingly baby is back to back (has been since 34 weeks!) no matter what I do to try and turn baby nothing seems to be working. I was recommended by our midwife of a website called Spinning Babies¬†as they have some ways you can try to get baby to turn. I find sitting on the birthing/physio ball very comfortable although although sometimes it’s not the case.

Until I saw this photo on their website ¬†I hadn’t quite realised just how baby was laying. As you can see in the picture bellow there is a huge difference to Anterior (way you want a baby to lay/come out) to the way babies do when Posterior (back to back). No wonder people say labour when a baby back to back is much more painful than an Anterior birth.

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Last week (11th June 2014) we went to our 40 week Midwife appointment, where they tried to do a sweep, but where unsuccessful and could only just touch the cervix as it was to high.  Baby is now engaged so really is a waiting game, however we have been told they wont let you go over 42 weeks, which would mean baby will either come naturally or around the 25th, at which point I will be induced. The idea of being induced freaked us out at first as it sounds really scary! However I have had a lot of leg pain and this week. My legs, ankles and knees have really swollen up and hurt like hell!

We can’t wait for baby to arrive, and have tried all the ‘old wives tales’ under the sun, yet none have worked. Some make sense but some are a bit weird. I thought the easiest would be to eat lots of pineapple, however, soon remembered the reason why you don’t eat it in large quantities, because your tongue goes tingly for the next few hours. Hot curries was a no-no, as a real wimp with hot food, and slightly hot doesn’t seem to have same effect. Making love, raspberry leaf tea and bumpy roads all been tried but with no success.

I know that the wait will be worth it, but at this present moment, each day feels like a week and just want baby to be here in our arms.

Thanks for reading and we’ll keep you updated (first blog after babies arrival may be a while before published, as think we’ll be a bit busy, but will go up as soon as we get a chance).

Appointments, Scans and sex of the baby

This blog is going to talk about scans, both 12 week and 20 week scan, general health checks, finding out the gender of the baby as well as screening for Down’s Syndrome. It will also discuss the appointments that we have had, both necessary and unnecessary.-

As we had been trying to conceive for 2 years before falling pregnant, as a couple we had discussed a lot of the questions that most couples face during their pregnancy.

Firstly did we want to find out the gender of the baby? This was a definite no! As we wanted that surprise on the day I give birth, of what are we actually having, added to this, you can find a lot of gender neutral items for the nursery and clothes, which still look really good. So why ruin the surprise, its like partially unwrapping your presents a month before christmas!

Secondly, the screening for Down’s Syndrome, did we want this? Again a definite no! My partner has worked for years within the area of special needs. Therefore as a couple we don’t see how even if the baby will have Down’s Syndrome, why we would have a termination. Children can live after being born at 20 weeks (my partner having worked with many), so how can a termination at this point not be anything other than murder? Especially, considering the length of time that we have been trying to get pregnant, to terminate a pregnancy because of a test that tells the parents the chance of the baby having Down’s Syndrome, surely all the effort would be wasted. As the test is not 100% conclusive, added to which it has been found to potentially increase the risk of miscarriage in the later stages of pregnancy. So really this was never a question, as the answer was always going to be the same. We were slightly shocked at our first midwife appointment, when she was shocked that we didn’t want this test, to the point that she asked me 4 times, before then asking my partner, as if he would change my mind. This really aggravated us, as surely it is our choice whether on not we have the test, and should not be judged on it, if its different to her view.

These were 2 items, which arise during your antenatal appointments, be it scans or midwife appointments. As it happens we have gone to more appointments than we need to, mainly because of us being nervous and unexperienced first time parents. Shortly after we found out that we were pregnant, we booked an appointment to see the doctor for them to complete a ‘proper’ pregnancy test and confirm that we were pregnant. At this appointment we were told that there was no need to book a doctors appointment, as the pregnancy tests you use at home are as accurate as the ones which the doctors use, so we could have just booked a midwife appointment.

This we did, unfortunately the midwifes only work on specific days at our local GP practice, meaning that my other half had to get time off, within a week of starting a new job, luckily his boss was very understanding. We attended this appointment, with what I must say was a very miserable midwife, her attitude was not as friendly and calming as we would have liked, especially as we had made it abundantly clear that we were anxious first time parents. Saying this a friend, who I currently nanny for, says she had problems with the same midwife. This said, she did complete all the relevant blood tests and measurements, which all came back clear, I was particularly happy that my blood pressure and heart rate were really healthy. I was dated as being due on the 13th June 2014.

We then had the long wait for the first dating scan, which wasn’t until 5th December, when I would be nearly 13 weeks pregnant. This was a day that was so exciting and nerve racking all at the same time, as what would we do if there was no baby? Or if it was in the wrong place? Luckily all was fine, and we got the most amazing scan picture, this was probably because we were so far gone, meaning baby was larger than it would have been at 8 weeks. The only update was that we were actually due on the 11th June 2014, which was good, as the 13th was a Friday, not that we are superstisious or anything!

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Next we had a trip to the doctors shortly before our 2nd midwife appointment. We decided to go as I was having a lot of discomfort/pain on the right side of my lower abdomen. We weren’t seriously worried, as my continued morning sickness, suggested that it was a healthy baby. The doctor felt my belly and tried to find the heart beat, which he found, and it was one of the most amazing experiences to hear your babies heart beat for the first time. He confirmed that he didn’t feel anything was wrong, ¬†and that it was just ‘growing pains’, but to come back if it continued. Our 2nd midwife appointment (with a different midwife), on Christmas Eve was to tell us the results of the blood test, were all clear, although I am Blood type O Negative, which means that I need to have an injection at 28 weeks and after birth, to prevent me producing antibodies, in case lotus is not the same blood group, which occurs if babies blood mixes with my own. This can cause problems for baby if this does occur, and can increase the risk of problems, should we get pregnant again. They also confirmed that we didn’t want the screening test, although this time as it was a different midwife, we weren’t made to feel bad for not wanting the test.

Next is the Anomaly scan, used to identify any problems with the way that baby is growing, which may make it unable to survive once born, which normally occurs at 20 weeks, with ours being on the 24th January 2014.

After that is 25 week Midwife appointment, where scan result is reviewed, and full antenatal examination is completed. At 28 weeks we have the same again, but this time having the Anti-D injection because of my blood type. Then at 31, 34, 36 and 38 weeks I have a full antenatal assessment, then at 40 weeks, all things permitting little lotus should enter the world as our little son or daughter.

Thank you for reading, I know some views will not be shared by others, and comments would be gratefully received.

Baby Shows, are they worth going to?

Since having a look online at things we want to get for little lotus, we have noticed that places do baby shows. I have been to a few wedding shows before we got pregnant to see how much it will cost when we get married (we were quite shocked!)

Having done some research as to when and where they are, we really have one or maybe two options, either go to the Baby Show at the Excel (London)¬†which is in February (21st-23rd) or we go to the the more local one which doesn’t have a date yet, but tend to be May time.

The one which we are looking to go to is the Baby show at the Excel, mainly as I will be roughly 24 weeks pregnant, as its a ¬†three hour drive from where we live in Norfolk, I shouldn’t find the drive to uncomfortable (in theory), another factor of going to the Excel show, is that as its in “London” I would imagine they would have more stalls which I would hope have some decent “show specials”.¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†¬†

lx4937_1Reusable nappies- we have heard a mix lot of reviews from friends, some loving them while others hate them. I would really like to be able to see what they are like and what is involved in using them

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Nursery set- we are looking for a set for no more than £500, so hoping they have some show specials, or some discount vouchers.

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Baby bean bags- a friend uses a normal  bean bag, so I know baby love them, but would like to see what the baby ones are like

baby rockerBaby Rockers- is it worth spending more? Or do the cheaper ones work just as well?

So as you can imagine, we are very excited and looking forward to getting some bargains, advice and hopefully lots of freebies (as everyone loves freebies)! If anyone has any suggestions about these shows, or products they recommend or would advise us to avoid, please leave a comment, as this is our first time, so all advice is gratefully recieved.

Thanks for reading.

Morning Sickness and Sickness Bug

As I previously mentioned, I have had, in my opinion, quite bad morning sickness. I have felt very sick every day since being about 5 weeks pregnant. Feeling sick while not being sick is a horrible sensation. However, shortly after my first midwife appointment, I came down with the sickness bug, which lasted for 3 days, leaving me unable to eat or even keep water down, as such I was extremely dehydrated to the point I was nearly admitted to hospital. Luckily this was not the case and somehow little Lotus managed to hold on, something we are so thankful for.

The sickness bug, weirdly almost gave my body permission to be sick, so whereas up to this point, I felt nauseous, but wasn’t sick. Yet since then I am now sick pretty much every day, on occasions several times. It got to the point that I was often sick when out in public, so I have rated different plastic bags on their permeability, with sports shop bags coming out on top.

At last, I think my morning sickness is now beginning to subside, having only been sick once in the past 10 days, although it must be noted that I do still feel incredibly nauseous  throughout the day.

Naming your Bump!

This is a common problem for newly expectant couples, with most settling for something ‘normal’ like bean or bump. Well, we wanted to be more original, so thought outside the box.

I have, I’d like to say since I was pregnant, but I have always been forgetful, although it has got worse since I’ve been pregnant. Well this really presented itself with keys. I’d like to say they were just my own keys, however, it got to the point, I was misplacing the keys of the families I work for. Then there was the occasion, I dropped my car keys in the middle of the woods, while walking my dog with a friend, before driving to pick her daughter up from school. Luckily, we found them in time. If you hadn’t guessed the common theme is keys, but we couldn’t call bump keys, and Aygo (the cars we had at the time) doesn’t sound better. So we decided to call it after both of our favourite car manufacturer, Lotus. A name that sounds classy yet has a personal meaning, and found that it soon stuck.

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It has caused some problems, as some friends think we are going to call baby Lotus (we aren’t although would be different) and some got so confused as they think we are actually talking about a car/flower. Although why we would need a scan of the car/flower still puzzles me.

Thanks for reading

Nearly 17 weeks Pregnant! What has it been like?

I have been so busy with work, pregnancy and trying to sell our house, I haven’t been able to write a blog for a while, so thought I would getting my writing hat on tonight and put down in words how these 17 weeks have been!

Well the time has flown by, we have had 2 midwife appointments, our first scan and heard the babies heart beat!!! Which have all been good, however there have been some difficult and challenging times, such as when to tell friends/family, choosing a name, morning sickness and illness.

We are both still so excited, and still feel so blessed that we have been given the gift of life, having been told that we may struggle to have children.

Ginger Root Capsules


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I am now 8 weeks 4 days pregnant, I have been feeling extremely sick since about 5 weeks.   I asked my midwife what she would recommend to help me feel better, lets put it this way, she was the least bit interested and didnt give me an answer, so I ended up asking a friend who has had a few children, she recommended root ginger capsules (as I really cant stand the taste of ginger!)

 

What is ginger root?

Ginger is native to Asia. The underground root or rhizome of the ginger plant has been used in Asian, Indian and Arabic traditions since ancient times. As well as being used as a food supplement, it has been used as a cooking spice for over 4000 years.

The active components of the ginger root are thought to be its volatile oils and pungent compounds such as gingerols and shogaols.

 

Today Is my 5th day of having two capsules a day (I take one in the morning and one after dinner), I have definitely felt better, not 100% but more like 60% better than I did a week ago.

They aren’t the cheapest thing to buy, however they are extremely worth the price (¬£8.36 a bottle), like a lot of things, I am sure if you shop around could find them cheaper.

Many thanks for reading, comments welcome!

 

6 Weeks 5 Day (1st trimester)

Who would have thought that time could go as slowly as it does when pregnant? I for one didn’t!!!!!

On Monday 28th (oct) we have my first midwife appointment, I’m unsure what she does on what is called a bookings appointment, but by the sounds of it, she will ask for family history and I will have to fill in a lot of forms. My partner has been allowed the morning off work, so he can join me at the appointment, which is going to be great, as I’m very nervous about being pregnant and what if something goes wrong.

So how have I been feeling this week?

  • At times I get a dull like period pain (cramps,backache, tummy ache) not so bad I need painkillers thought. ¬†I’m unsure if this is “normal” or not. ¬†This is definitely something which I will be asking the midwife on Monday about.
  • Feeling very sick 24/7 but is a lot worst in the mornings, when I wake up!
  • Frequent-urination, I believe I am having to go to the toilet double as many times as I did last week!

I would Imagen to some people his all sounds very normal, but this being mine/our first time, we cant help but think of the worst outcome.

just over a week ago, I ended up calling 111 as I had bad backache and also tummy ache (cramps), I was soon told I had a kidney infection (after having to go to an out of hours doctors), so wouldn’t send me for a early scan, which is one way is a good thing, but would have been very nice to know everything is okay and Bean is in the right place (I’m extremely scared of having an ¬†Ectopic Pregnancy¬†¬†)¬†

I’m sure everyone feels the same about waiting for the scan. I should think the next 8 months will be just as bad with worrying, but its every hard not too. ¬†Will this start to change after the first scan?

We still cant quite believe we are having a baby naturally after being told by doctors we “could” have problems. Which is why We are trying not to let ourself get to excited and tell to many people, as its such early days.

Thank you for reading!!!

Comments more than welcome!

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