Am I back to “Normal”

Okay so normal is a bit of a strange word to use, as is anyone “normal”? Many people would say I’m far from it.

What I mean by “normal” with this blog is am I back to the way I was before the depo?

Well its been 3 months now since my period’s have been regular. I have noticed something which I never thought about before the depo, I either have a heavy period and spend most of the time sleepy. On the other hand I can have a light period and get very grumpy and hate everyone and everything, one thing which is common with both is the fact I get very clumsy (saying this I am a very clumsy person).

Now my periods are regular does this mean I’m fertile? We would both hope that it is the case, however, just because I am having a period does not mean that I am necessarily releasing an egg.

So really that leaves two possibilities, firstly we wait till we can get a full fertility test done on the NHS, or we can purchase the home testing ovulation kits, as discussed before. Both have downsides, the first is not available till 2 years after the last depo injection, which means no test till March 2014! Which as we always say, why is it so long, if the depo is only meant to last 3 months?

Whereas if we go with the self testing kit, it incurs a personal cost, and does carry a certain risk that we may do it at the wrong time of the month (not seen instructions, so not sure how well the inform you of when you need to use). Plus why should we pay for something to solve a problem caused by a contraception that they say is safe for use, yet seems to have no end of problems?

I think we will wait till after Christmas and then invest in some ovulation tests, as though we are in no rush to have a baby, we want to know if it is going to be possible naturally or if we are going to need assistance. Lets hope it can all happen naturally.

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9 Months On……

Its been 9 months since my last depo injection (in theory)….. ran out, although its  a year next month, from when I had my first and only injection.

So whats changed?

I’m now having regular one week periods, no more horrible bleeding all over the month. My days  app is still showing that my periods have been either a few days early or late, so still not back to normal (as such) but then again I never started and/or finished when it said I was going to be (even before I had the depo). Therefore I use it as a rough guide, to make sure that I don’t arrange to go swimming with friends around that time.

Its hard not to notice, this month (November) that I have all of a suddenly got extremely spotty. I look like a teenager again, which doesn’t help when I look about 16 and get ID for pretty much everything possible, even fuel… after I have driven my car into the petrol station. Another one was red bull (is there even a age limit to buying such a drink?) I mean its pretty rank but when I’m extremely tired and have to go out I will have one, but that’s once in a blue moon and only as I don’t drink coffee or tea.

I  have notice I’ve got my sex drive back, which as silly as it sounds when I was on the depo, I really did lose a lot of my sex drive as normal, I think it was messing my hormones up, which to me is a bit silly when the idea of it is so you don’t get pregnant, when having sex… although not having sex does also stop this…. So my partner is now making up for lost time…

I’m now finding it harder not to tell people we are trying for a baby. Then again, after my aunts reaction on Facebook yesterday, when a friend  put on my wall as a joke..how was the pregnancy going (because I’ve been feeling very sick lately) she said “OMG”, not exactly comforting. Its more a fact that she truly believed it, and was about to tell my uncle and gran… This started me thinking about how to tell people when we are pregnant. Its not saying its put me off having a baby as we are both in our 20s and we have are own house,can afford to bring a baby up. But what is the best way to tell people? Surely not on Facebook? Is it by texts, calls or emails? The reason I’m asking this, is because we have family all over the place from all over the UK, to Canada and Spain.

At the end of the day as hard as it would be to take if someone did criticize us for wanting/having a baby when we aren’t married really shouldn’t bother us as we aren’t religious and as nice as it would be to be married, it wouldn’t make any difference to the way we live, apart from our bank balance after the wedding.

I have stopped taking my anti depressants about 3 weeks ago now. I can’t say not taking them has made any difference to the way I feel. Which is a good thing, although the doctors say I’m still mildly depressed but I think this has more to do with the fact I’m tired a lot of the time and they have to put it down to something. Especially after the blood tests coming back fine. Saying this I’m having some more blood tests done on Monday. So in a way I hope something comes back from these ones, although don’t really believe it will.

I think that’s covered everything.

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Diabetes in men and pregancy

This is something which I’m sure is relevant to other people as well as us. My partner has type 1 diabetes and we have been wondering lately as to how much this would take a part in us getting pregnant. I would love to think it wouldn’t but then again its the whole unknown. I have done some research, which first thing I noticed was that there was a lot more about diabetes in women and pregnancy rather than men. I still found some very helpful information:

Diabetes causes a range of problems, in men these include:

  • altered DNA of sperm, which affects getting pregnant, the health of the foetus and even the chance of live births
  • males with diabetes have a lower semen levels

These problems are all made worse by the male having poor control over his blood sugar levels, which mean that his overall health is worse, therefore meaning the health of his sperm is also worse.

I think unless your partner isn’t in-control of his sugar levels, I cant see a reason why you shouldn’t try for a baby. This blog is not meant to be scare mongering, it is just information that I have found on the internet. My partner has good control over his blood sugar, so fingers crossed can’t see any problems. However, I know that we want children, so would still be trying anyway. As it must be remembered that diabetes only increases the risk of the aforementioned problems occurring, it is not a guarantee that they will, much like running across a road without looking increase the chance of being hit, but doesn’t mean it will definitely happen!

So fingers crossed that his diabetes won’t affect us getting pregnant too much.

So why do I have to wait so long?

Today I was at the doctors, for something unrelated to pregnancy, unfortunately. Anyway, as I was there, I thought that I would ask the doctor, when we would be able to be tested regarding mine and my partners fertility. She informed me that it would be 1 year after the 1 year it takes for the Depo-Provera injection to get out of your system. So that is 2 years after you finish the depo. Although hopefully I will be pregnant within 2 years this seems like a very long time.

I understand the reasoning (to a point), that it means people don’t finish the depo and immediately want to know if they are fertile. However if your body has returned to normal (normal periods) then why do you still have to wait for this 2 year point. Shouldn’t it be like a year  after they have returned to your normal pattern? And why do you have to have a year of trying, as be it by luck or planning, I am sure that within 6 months 99% of couples will have sex while she is ovulating at least once.

And yes there are testing kits that you can buy (as mentioned in previous blog: Fertility Tests) to monitor and plan when you are ovulating, but should I really have to pay for this, when there is an option available for free from the NHS.

Also, and I think that I have said about this before, but if the Depo injection does not leave your body for one year, then why do you have to have an injection every 3 months and not once a year??? And I know of a friend, who got pregnant while having the depo every 3 months as prescribed, so really I don’t think they actually know how long it will affect different people, but should it really be a widely used contraceptive if this is the case??? I often wonder this, and can find no suitably adequate answer either on the internet or from medical professionals.

So now its a case of waiting with fingers crossed, hoping that I am fortunate enough to fall pregnant within the next year and a half, before we are allowed to have tests on the NHS, to make sure that we are able to have children naturally.

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