Appointments, Scans and sex of the baby

This blog is going to talk about scans, both 12 week and 20 week scan, general health checks, finding out the gender of the baby as well as screening for Down’s Syndrome. It will also discuss the appointments that we have had, both necessary and unnecessary.-

As we had been trying to conceive for 2 years before falling pregnant, as a couple we had discussed a lot of the questions that most couples face during their pregnancy.

Firstly did we want to find out the gender of the baby? This was a definite no! As we wanted that surprise on the day I give birth, of what are we actually having, added to this, you can find a lot of gender neutral items for the nursery and clothes, which still look really good. So why ruin the surprise, its like partially unwrapping your presents a month before christmas!

Secondly, the screening for Down’s Syndrome, did we want this? Again a definite no! My partner has worked for years within the area of special needs. Therefore as a couple we don’t see how even if the baby will have Down’s Syndrome, why we would have a termination. Children can live after being born at 20 weeks (my partner having worked with many), so how can a termination at this point not be anything other than murder? Especially, considering the length of time that we have been trying to get pregnant, to terminate a pregnancy because of a test that tells the parents the chance of the baby having Down’s Syndrome, surely all the effort would be wasted. As the test is not 100% conclusive, added to which it has been found to potentially increase the risk of miscarriage in the later stages of pregnancy. So really this was never a question, as the answer was always going to be the same. We were slightly shocked at our first midwife appointment, when she was shocked that we didn’t want this test, to the point that she asked me 4 times, before then asking my partner, as if he would change my mind. This really aggravated us, as surely it is our choice whether on not we have the test, and should not be judged on it, if its different to her view.

These were 2 items, which arise during your antenatal appointments, be it scans or midwife appointments. As it happens we have gone to more appointments than we need to, mainly because of us being nervous and unexperienced first time parents. Shortly after we found out that we were pregnant, we booked an appointment to see the doctor for them to complete a ‘proper’ pregnancy test and confirm that we were pregnant. At this appointment we were told that there was no need to book a doctors appointment, as the pregnancy tests you use at home are as accurate as the ones which the doctors use, so we could have just booked a midwife appointment.

This we did, unfortunately the midwifes only work on specific days at our local GP practice, meaning that my other half had to get time off, within a week of starting a new job, luckily his boss was very understanding. We attended this appointment, with what I must say was a very miserable midwife, her attitude was not as friendly and calming as we would have liked, especially as we had made it abundantly clear that we were anxious first time parents. Saying this a friend, who I currently nanny for, says she had problems with the same midwife. This said, she did complete all the relevant blood tests and measurements, which all came back clear, I was particularly happy that my blood pressure and heart rate were really healthy. I was dated as being due on the 13th June 2014.

We then had the long wait for the first dating scan, which wasn’t until 5th December, when I would be nearly 13 weeks pregnant. This was a day that was so exciting and nerve racking all at the same time, as what would we do if there was no baby? Or if it was in the wrong place? Luckily all was fine, and we got the most amazing scan picture, this was probably because we were so far gone, meaning baby was larger than it would have been at 8 weeks. The only update was that we were actually due on the 11th June 2014, which was good, as the 13th was a Friday, not that we are superstisious or anything!

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Next we had a trip to the doctors shortly before our 2nd midwife appointment. We decided to go as I was having a lot of discomfort/pain on the right side of my lower abdomen. We weren’t seriously worried, as my continued morning sickness, suggested that it was a healthy baby. The doctor felt my belly and tried to find the heart beat, which he found, and it was one of the most amazing experiences to hear your babies heart beat for the first time. He confirmed that he didn’t feel anything was wrong,  and that it was just ‘growing pains’, but to come back if it continued. Our 2nd midwife appointment (with a different midwife), on Christmas Eve was to tell us the results of the blood test, were all clear, although I am Blood type O Negative, which means that I need to have an injection at 28 weeks and after birth, to prevent me producing antibodies, in case lotus is not the same blood group, which occurs if babies blood mixes with my own. This can cause problems for baby if this does occur, and can increase the risk of problems, should we get pregnant again. They also confirmed that we didn’t want the screening test, although this time as it was a different midwife, we weren’t made to feel bad for not wanting the test.

Next is the Anomaly scan, used to identify any problems with the way that baby is growing, which may make it unable to survive once born, which normally occurs at 20 weeks, with ours being on the 24th January 2014.

After that is 25 week Midwife appointment, where scan result is reviewed, and full antenatal examination is completed. At 28 weeks we have the same again, but this time having the Anti-D injection because of my blood type. Then at 31, 34, 36 and 38 weeks I have a full antenatal assessment, then at 40 weeks, all things permitting little lotus should enter the world as our little son or daughter.

Thank you for reading, I know some views will not be shared by others, and comments would be gratefully received.

Baby Shows, are they worth going to?

Since having a look online at things we want to get for little lotus, we have noticed that places do baby shows. I have been to a few wedding shows before we got pregnant to see how much it will cost when we get married (we were quite shocked!)

Having done some research as to when and where they are, we really have one or maybe two options, either go to the Baby Show at the Excel (London) which is in February (21st-23rd) or we go to the the more local one which doesn’t have a date yet, but tend to be May time.

The one which we are looking to go to is the Baby show at the Excel, mainly as I will be roughly 24 weeks pregnant, as its a  three hour drive from where we live in Norfolk, I shouldn’t find the drive to uncomfortable (in theory), another factor of going to the Excel show, is that as its in “London” I would imagine they would have more stalls which I would hope have some decent “show specials”.                                                                   

lx4937_1Reusable nappies- we have heard a mix lot of reviews from friends, some loving them while others hate them. I would really like to be able to see what they are like and what is involved in using them

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Nursery set- we are looking for a set for no more than £500, so hoping they have some show specials, or some discount vouchers.

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Baby bean bags- a friend uses a normal  bean bag, so I know baby love them, but would like to see what the baby ones are like

baby rockerBaby Rockers- is it worth spending more? Or do the cheaper ones work just as well?

So as you can imagine, we are very excited and looking forward to getting some bargains, advice and hopefully lots of freebies (as everyone loves freebies)! If anyone has any suggestions about these shows, or products they recommend or would advise us to avoid, please leave a comment, as this is our first time, so all advice is gratefully recieved.

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Morning Sickness and Sickness Bug

As I previously mentioned, I have had, in my opinion, quite bad morning sickness. I have felt very sick every day since being about 5 weeks pregnant. Feeling sick while not being sick is a horrible sensation. However, shortly after my first midwife appointment, I came down with the sickness bug, which lasted for 3 days, leaving me unable to eat or even keep water down, as such I was extremely dehydrated to the point I was nearly admitted to hospital. Luckily this was not the case and somehow little Lotus managed to hold on, something we are so thankful for.

The sickness bug, weirdly almost gave my body permission to be sick, so whereas up to this point, I felt nauseous, but wasn’t sick. Yet since then I am now sick pretty much every day, on occasions several times. It got to the point that I was often sick when out in public, so I have rated different plastic bags on their permeability, with sports shop bags coming out on top.

At last, I think my morning sickness is now beginning to subside, having only been sick once in the past 10 days, although it must be noted that I do still feel incredibly nauseous  throughout the day.

Naming your Bump!

This is a common problem for newly expectant couples, with most settling for something ‘normal’ like bean or bump. Well, we wanted to be more original, so thought outside the box.

I have, I’d like to say since I was pregnant, but I have always been forgetful, although it has got worse since I’ve been pregnant. Well this really presented itself with keys. I’d like to say they were just my own keys, however, it got to the point, I was misplacing the keys of the families I work for. Then there was the occasion, I dropped my car keys in the middle of the woods, while walking my dog with a friend, before driving to pick her daughter up from school. Luckily, we found them in time. If you hadn’t guessed the common theme is keys, but we couldn’t call bump keys, and Aygo (the cars we had at the time) doesn’t sound better. So we decided to call it after both of our favourite car manufacturer, Lotus. A name that sounds classy yet has a personal meaning, and found that it soon stuck.

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It has caused some problems, as some friends think we are going to call baby Lotus (we aren’t although would be different) and some got so confused as they think we are actually talking about a car/flower. Although why we would need a scan of the car/flower still puzzles me.

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