40+5 Over Due!!! Where has the time gone?

Sorry for not blogging in such a long time, we have been crazily busy with bump, who has been a lazy so-and-so at times, meaning we have had to take several trips to hospital for monitoring, scans and consultant appointments. We are also still embroiled in the midst of moving house, something which has taken far too long, but that’s story for another blog.

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Finally got a bump, took about 34 weeks to appear, but its a nice little bump all out front, which I think I am very lucky. As, I might be biased, but I think its a lovely bump, with just a few stretch marks at the bottom. Although in the last few weeks it has dropped quite significantly.

What have we been up to lately?

Annoyingly baby is back to back (has been since 34 weeks!) no matter what I do to try and turn baby nothing seems to be working. I was recommended by our midwife of a website called Spinning Babies as they have some ways you can try to get baby to turn. I find sitting on the birthing/physio ball very comfortable although although sometimes it’s not the case.

Until I saw this photo on their website  I hadn’t quite realised just how baby was laying. As you can see in the picture bellow there is a huge difference to Anterior (way you want a baby to lay/come out) to the way babies do when Posterior (back to back). No wonder people say labour when a baby back to back is much more painful than an Anterior birth.

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Last week (11th June 2014) we went to our 40 week Midwife appointment, where they tried to do a sweep, but where unsuccessful and could only just touch the cervix as it was to high.  Baby is now engaged so really is a waiting game, however we have been told they wont let you go over 42 weeks, which would mean baby will either come naturally or around the 25th, at which point I will be induced. The idea of being induced freaked us out at first as it sounds really scary! However I have had a lot of leg pain and this week. My legs, ankles and knees have really swollen up and hurt like hell!

We can’t wait for baby to arrive, and have tried all the ‘old wives tales’ under the sun, yet none have worked. Some make sense but some are a bit weird. I thought the easiest would be to eat lots of pineapple, however, soon remembered the reason why you don’t eat it in large quantities, because your tongue goes tingly for the next few hours. Hot curries was a no-no, as a real wimp with hot food, and slightly hot doesn’t seem to have same effect. Making love, raspberry leaf tea and bumpy roads all been tried but with no success.

I know that the wait will be worth it, but at this present moment, each day feels like a week and just want baby to be here in our arms.

Thanks for reading and we’ll keep you updated (first blog after babies arrival may be a while before published, as think we’ll be a bit busy, but will go up as soon as we get a chance).

’16 Kids and Counting’ Review of the Program

This was on Channel 4 a few nights ago. It covered the Radford family, who are the largest family living under one roof in the UK. It was about their ever increasing family. Mum has 15 children and is expecting her 16th, and her eldest daughter is expecting her first child. Here is a link to the program: 16 Kids and Counting.

It was for us, and I am sure many others, a very frustrating program. The frustration comes from two sources. Firstly I am 90% sure that me and my partner are going to have difficulties getting pregnant,as we have been trying to conceive for nearly year, although that may be some what down to the depo-provera injection. So for people to find it so easy, and almost take advantage of the fact. How can they honestly say that the 16th time was as special as the first one or two???? Also they virtually admitted the fact that they don’t get the chance to spend quality time with each child individually, but yet say they want all their children to know that they are wanted and loved. Yet due to the parents obsession, I think any more than 6 children (excluding multiple births) can be called an obsession, they miss a child’s birthday because mum is waiting to be induced. The boy said that it wasn’t their fault, but you could tell inside he was heartbroken, like any child would be.

Secondly, is the money, they were saying that money was tight, yet spent £1000+ on passports, £200 on holiday clothes plus the cost of the holiday and travel for 19 people. That is over 2 months income for us, and that’s without taking out mortgage and bills, etc. Yes they have a family run business, but can’t see that being that profitable, so they must be claiming a great deal of benefits.

I hope that we as a couple are able to have children, but I know for a fact that if we can’t I don’t want to be paying for people to be having massive families, when we are unable to conceive. It is almost rubbing it in our faces.

I know that this blog may seem like it is very negative and against larger families, but there seems to be obstacles in the way of couples who are having difficulties conceiving, yet nothing to discourage families from having a small army of children. Maybe some of the money helping to fund these families should be spent on supporting those who can’t have children, such as making IVF available to everyone who can’t have children, decreasing the currently narrow criteria.

I apologise to anyone who is offended by anything said in this blog, just expressing an opinion, which is not done out of spite, purely to spread our views to those who follow our blog.

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