Appointments, Scans and sex of the baby

This blog is going to talk about scans, both 12 week and 20 week scan, general health checks, finding out the gender of the baby as well as screening for Down’s Syndrome. It will also discuss the appointments that we have had, both necessary and unnecessary.-

As we had been trying to conceive for 2 years before falling pregnant, as a couple we had discussed a lot of the questions that most couples face during their pregnancy.

Firstly did we want to find out the gender of the baby? This was a definite no! As we wanted that surprise on the day I give birth, of what are we actually having, added to this, you can find a lot of gender neutral items for the nursery and clothes, which still look really good. So why ruin the surprise, its like partially unwrapping your presents a month before christmas!

Secondly, the screening for Down’s Syndrome, did we want this? Again a definite no! My partner has worked for years within the area of special needs. Therefore as a couple we don’t see how even if the baby will have Down’s Syndrome, why we would have a termination. Children can live after being born at 20 weeks (my partner having worked with many), so how can a termination at this point not be anything other than murder? Especially, considering the length of time that we have been trying to get pregnant, to terminate a pregnancy because of a test that tells the parents the chance of the baby having Down’s Syndrome, surely all the effort would be wasted. As the test is not 100% conclusive, added to which it has been found to potentially increase the risk of miscarriage in the later stages of pregnancy. So really this was never a question, as the answer was always going to be the same. We were slightly shocked at our first midwife appointment, when she was shocked that we didn’t want this test, to the point that she asked me 4 times, before then asking my partner, as if he would change my mind. This really aggravated us, as surely it is our choice whether on not we have the test, and should not be judged on it, if its different to her view.

These were 2 items, which arise during your antenatal appointments, be it scans or midwife appointments. As it happens we have gone to more appointments than we need to, mainly because of us being nervous and unexperienced first time parents. Shortly after we found out that we were pregnant, we booked an appointment to see the doctor for them to complete a ‘proper’ pregnancy test and confirm that we were pregnant. At this appointment we were told that there was no need to book a doctors appointment, as the pregnancy tests you use at home are as accurate as the ones which the doctors use, so we could have just booked a midwife appointment.

This we did, unfortunately the midwifes only work on specific days at our local GP practice, meaning that my other half had to get time off, within a week of starting a new job, luckily his boss was very understanding. We attended this appointment, with what I must say was a very miserable midwife, her attitude was not as friendly and calming as we would have liked, especially as we had made it abundantly clear that we were anxious first time parents. Saying this a friend, who I currently nanny for, says she had problems with the same midwife. This said, she did complete all the relevant blood tests and measurements, which all came back clear, I was particularly happy that my blood pressure and heart rate were really healthy. I was dated as being due on the 13th June 2014.

We then had the long wait for the first dating scan, which wasn’t until 5th December, when I would be nearly 13 weeks pregnant. This was a day that was so exciting and nerve racking all at the same time, as what would we do if there was no baby? Or if it was in the wrong place? Luckily all was fine, and we got the most amazing scan picture, this was probably because we were so far gone, meaning baby was larger than it would have been at 8 weeks. The only update was that we were actually due on the 11th June 2014, which was good, as the 13th was a Friday, not that we are superstisious or anything!

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Next we had a trip to the doctors shortly before our 2nd midwife appointment. We decided to go as I was having a lot of discomfort/pain on the right side of my lower abdomen. We weren’t seriously worried, as my continued morning sickness, suggested that it was a healthy baby. The doctor felt my belly and tried to find the heart beat, which he found, and it was one of the most amazing experiences to hear your babies heart beat for the first time. He confirmed that he didn’t feel anything was wrong,  and that it was just ‘growing pains’, but to come back if it continued. Our 2nd midwife appointment (with a different midwife), on Christmas Eve was to tell us the results of the blood test, were all clear, although I am Blood type O Negative, which means that I need to have an injection at 28 weeks and after birth, to prevent me producing antibodies, in case lotus is not the same blood group, which occurs if babies blood mixes with my own. This can cause problems for baby if this does occur, and can increase the risk of problems, should we get pregnant again. They also confirmed that we didn’t want the screening test, although this time as it was a different midwife, we weren’t made to feel bad for not wanting the test.

Next is the Anomaly scan, used to identify any problems with the way that baby is growing, which may make it unable to survive once born, which normally occurs at 20 weeks, with ours being on the 24th January 2014.

After that is 25 week Midwife appointment, where scan result is reviewed, and full antenatal examination is completed. At 28 weeks we have the same again, but this time having the Anti-D injection because of my blood type. Then at 31, 34, 36 and 38 weeks I have a full antenatal assessment, then at 40 weeks, all things permitting little lotus should enter the world as our little son or daughter.

Thank you for reading, I know some views will not be shared by others, and comments would be gratefully received.

Nearly 17 weeks Pregnant! What has it been like?

I have been so busy with work, pregnancy and trying to sell our house, I haven’t been able to write a blog for a while, so thought I would getting my writing hat on tonight and put down in words how these 17 weeks have been!

Well the time has flown by, we have had 2 midwife appointments, our first scan and heard the babies heart beat!!! Which have all been good, however there have been some difficult and challenging times, such as when to tell friends/family, choosing a name, morning sickness and illness.

We are both still so excited, and still feel so blessed that we have been given the gift of life, having been told that we may struggle to have children.

Ginger Root Capsules


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I am now 8 weeks 4 days pregnant, I have been feeling extremely sick since about 5 weeks.   I asked my midwife what she would recommend to help me feel better, lets put it this way, she was the least bit interested and didnt give me an answer, so I ended up asking a friend who has had a few children, she recommended root ginger capsules (as I really cant stand the taste of ginger!)

 

What is ginger root?

Ginger is native to Asia. The underground root or rhizome of the ginger plant has been used in Asian, Indian and Arabic traditions since ancient times. As well as being used as a food supplement, it has been used as a cooking spice for over 4000 years.

The active components of the ginger root are thought to be its volatile oils and pungent compounds such as gingerols and shogaols.

 

Today Is my 5th day of having two capsules a day (I take one in the morning and one after dinner), I have definitely felt better, not 100% but more like 60% better than I did a week ago.

They aren’t the cheapest thing to buy, however they are extremely worth the price (£8.36 a bottle), like a lot of things, I am sure if you shop around could find them cheaper.

Many thanks for reading, comments welcome!

 

6 Weeks 5 Day (1st trimester)

Who would have thought that time could go as slowly as it does when pregnant? I for one didn’t!!!!!

On Monday 28th (oct) we have my first midwife appointment, I’m unsure what she does on what is called a bookings appointment, but by the sounds of it, she will ask for family history and I will have to fill in a lot of forms. My partner has been allowed the morning off work, so he can join me at the appointment, which is going to be great, as I’m very nervous about being pregnant and what if something goes wrong.

So how have I been feeling this week?

  • At times I get a dull like period pain (cramps,backache, tummy ache) not so bad I need painkillers thought.  I’m unsure if this is “normal” or not.  This is definitely something which I will be asking the midwife on Monday about.
  • Feeling very sick 24/7 but is a lot worst in the mornings, when I wake up!
  • Frequent-urination, I believe I am having to go to the toilet double as many times as I did last week!

I would Imagen to some people his all sounds very normal, but this being mine/our first time, we cant help but think of the worst outcome.

just over a week ago, I ended up calling 111 as I had bad backache and also tummy ache (cramps), I was soon told I had a kidney infection (after having to go to an out of hours doctors), so wouldn’t send me for a early scan, which is one way is a good thing, but would have been very nice to know everything is okay and Bean is in the right place (I’m extremely scared of having an  Ectopic Pregnancy  ) 

I’m sure everyone feels the same about waiting for the scan. I should think the next 8 months will be just as bad with worrying, but its every hard not too.  Will this start to change after the first scan?

We still cant quite believe we are having a baby naturally after being told by doctors we “could” have problems. Which is why We are trying not to let ourself get to excited and tell to many people, as its such early days.

Thank you for reading!!!

Comments more than welcome!

One Born Every Minute

We like a lot of people love this show on channel 4. We are currently waiting for the new episode to start (series 4 episode 2) only 30 mins to go!!!!

Anyways this has got us thinking about how we will cope and what the labor to go, it even scares me to think about it even though I’m not currently pregnant.

So whats really freaking me out about the whole thing?

1) The pain! Which I think is the main thing a lot of people worry about, as being a first timer having no idea how bad it really is, slightly scary! I will be the first to admit it I’m a massive wimp especially when it comes to hitting your little toe/foot on the end of the bed/furniture.

2) Is a weird one, I do worry about how my other half will be on the day. As much as I love him, he can be really annoying and tries to wind me up. After watching an old One Born Every Min where the husband/boyfriend is eating fish and chips in the room the lady was currently in labour really made me think about this. My partner is diabetic so would need to eat, and as much as I could cope with fish and chips I’m unsure how I would if I was in pain… Lets hope he reads this and remembers to take some sandwiches instead of hot food.

3) Irritating midwife… watching OBEM, there are some midwives who are lovely and would be the perfect person to guides us through that stressful experience. However, there are some on the show, who irritate the hell out of me while watching, let alone if I was in the pain of labour!

4) What if something goes wrong…either during pregnancy or labour, as a friend baby recently died shortly after birth due to problems with brain activity.

5) Last week there was a couple that had to keep coming into hospital, just to be sent home again and again, this would be one of my worst fears, as would feel like everybody’s time would be wasted.

Some things we have already talked about as a couple, are things we really want to happen when I am in labour.

  •  we want to make sure that we are together, as I hate hospitals, so if he is sent home, I will be going with him. And hence if I need to stay overnight, so will he. To prove this point, I left hospital within an hour and half of having all 4 wisdom teeth out (under local anaesthetic)
  • As I am so bad with pain, I will be making use of as much pain relief as possible…Hello Epidural!!!
  • we plan on only us to being there at the birth, mainly as its something special for us as a couple, and also I’m sure my mother would wind me up and make the whole thing 20x worst.

As we aren’t talking to friends and family about getting pregnant and that, can’t really ask them if these are normal fears and concerns. And are they unreasonable demands???

Please feel free to let us know if other people have felt the same as we do, and the things that you have been put on your birthing plan.

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