How can friends not value the life of potential children???

This is a blog that have come about because of a so called friend really irritating me today!

As my regular readers will know, me and my partner are wanting to have a child, and due to a variety of circumstances we believe that it won’t be as easy as it could be.

So for someone I know to come up to me yesterday, with a pregnancy test, and said luckily I didn’t need this, as just started my period. But if I had, then I would have had an abortion, as its my body and I don’t want a child!

I really was in shock as to what to say… firstly if you really don’t want children then use protection, its not expensive and can be obtained free on the NHS. Secondly does she not know how sacred that life that she would have in her is? Yes I know that I am biased, but any child we conceive will be treasured and valued as a priceless life that we will be so happy to bring into the world!

I know that I not everyone will agree, but abortion is murder, as it is the end of a life… is it not? Granted there are occasions when having the baby would cause emotional hurt, such as a pregnancy after rape. However, I am a firm believer, and going to sound like Jeremy Kyle, if you don’t want a child use protection!

As there are so many people who can’t have children, or even like a friend has recently, their baby died after 5 days, due to complications. Is it fair to these people, for those who can have children, to throw away their lives so easily and care free?

I know that this a blog, that may well polarise our readers, but I was so cross and angry with this person, that I needed to vent it on here.

As always comments and opinions are welcome.



I’m ….. Not Pregnant!!!

Well as I first thought, I’m not pregnant. It would have been nice to have been able to say I was.  As you would have already guessed this means my other half isn’t psychic after all, no surprise there, as he is often wrong.

This got me thinking is it a common thing with the depo injection that people, like myself, start to feel and get the symptoms of pregnancy when we aren’t?

After doing a lot of research about this on-line  to see if my symptoms were pregnancy or not. I came across a lot of people with the same problem while on the depo, It would seem its rather a common problem with the depo that you start to feel and get the symptoms like pregnancy. The shot makes your body think you are pregnant it  so its no surprise that it can cause some of us to gain weight, breast tenderness, sickness, back aches and everything else connected with pregnancy.

So if this is most common in people who are still having the depo, so why am I showing the same effects 6 months down the line?

I would just like to add that a friend of mine did get pregnant while taken the depo shot, so if you think your pregant and showing signs why not get a test and see? Some are cheaper than others such as the  Ultra Early Pregnancy Tests and have evidence they are as good as the more expensive ones which you can see on my other blog called The big dilemma price or quality

Thank you for reading and please feel free to leave helpful comments.

Am I pregant after 6months after the depo shot? Wishful Thinking???

If I am it would be rather funny, as just after when we decided to come off the depo, my partner said, it will be September when I would get pregnant. Something we only remembered he had said the other day. So we will soon find out if he is psychic.

Well its been about just over 2 weeks now since I had some bleeding, which as I’ve said before on another blog (If I went back in time would I have the Depo again), I can bleed anything from one day to a month without any break.

Since just over 2 weeks ago I stopped bleeding (which this time was only for 3days) we have been having regular sex to try and improve the chances of getting pregnant.

So what makes me think am I pregnant? Well my nipples are sore, I feel pretty sick, am very tired and also had an increased need to urinate  I have looked on a few websites including NHS Symptoms of Pregnancy and Emma’s Diary. One thing I noticed straight away after doing some research was these symptoms could be associated with other conditions as well so cant say they are 100% meaning I’m pregnant (oh how we would love it to mean we were). Most of the symptoms I have are way to early for being 2/3 weeks pregnant. But there is always a possibility.

I suppose its best to wait another month before buying a test, mainly as they aren’t cheap and I worry about getting mine and my partners hopes up. Another bad thing about the depo shot is I’m unsure if I have missed my period unlike before I could pretty much say 90% of the time when I was due to start but now its really hit and miss….

I have always thought and said it would take years to get pregnant and I really will be shocked when the time comes when we get pregnant and the moment I am trying to put it at the back of my mind that we are trying to get pregnant and remember the main thing is to have fun.

The Best Sex Positions To Get Pregnant.

We have written before about the fact that it doesn’t matter which positions you do to get pregnant really wont make any difference but is this really the case?

We like to make love gently and intimately, so we tend to be boring and do the run of the mill positions such as the missionary.

So are we doing the right ones to get pregnant?

I have been looking online, to see what advice other people would give us on this subject.

So what position do people say is best to do?

The first one I came across when looking on google was a website saying that the missionary position is the best one for conception.

  • This is because this particular position allows for the deepest possible penetration, making it possible for the sperm to get deposited closest to the cervix

On another website we found that these positions are also effective at increasing the chance of getting pregnant:

  • Glowing Triangle. Elevating the hips, which can be done by placing a pillow behind her, can also be helpful because this exposes the female cervix to as much semen as the male can release.
  • Doggy-style. The rear-entry position where the man enters the woman from behind is also a recommended position. In this position, sperm is also deposited closest to the cervix, thereby helping increase the chances of conception.
  • Side-by-side. You can also try having intercourse while lying side by side. This position likewise causes the most exposure of the cervix to the male sperm.

As I have said on “Does having a hot bath after sex stop you getting pregnant and other myths!!!”  there is no evidence to back these position up, but we are going to try and stick to doing these positions for the next few months, to see how things go.

Other tips that the websites give for increasing conception are:

  • The man should keep his penis in the vagina as deeply as possible so that a minimal amount of ejaculate leaks out
  • After withdrawing his penis, the man can gently press the woman’s labia together to prevent further leakage
  • The woman should remain lying on her back for an additional 20 to 30 minutes, preferably with her lower back supported by a pillow so her pelvis is tilted slightly upward
  • Also if the female has an orgasm, it is believed that the contractions of her vagina, forces the sperm towards her cervix

Hope this helps and we will keep you updated on how it goes. 🙂

Why should I pay for Sanitary Towels???

I have always had this grumble, why should us females have to pay for sanitary towels/tampons whatever you use. However, my feeling of irritation have grown since coming off the depo, as I am now bleeding for 90% of each month, so am going through about 5 or more packs a month. Which had been very expensive, as each pack is about £3 each. However, I have recently discovered that Poundland sells exactly the same thing, but for a not suprising £1 price tag.

Yes I know that I chose to have the depo, and one of the side effects is irregular periods. Whether its me misunderstanding but that suggest periods may not be monthly, either not happening or be several times a month, but to be bleeding for all but a week of the month, is a little bit more than irregular periods. So should the company that produce the depo injection not foot the bill, or should they be available on the nhs like condoms are?

I do understand that this is to encourage safe sex, and reduce the transmission of STDs, but ultimately it is for something fun. Periods are anything but, and are in no way through choice, so why should females have to pay for these when men get things to make having fun safe for free?

Or should Always decrease their prices? Or are they in colusion with the depo people and share the profits…

ps I am currently on again, hence me writing this current grumble. lol 🙂

Probably not very healthy…


I know this doesn’t appear on or approved food list. But occasionally you need a treat, and we did win these on a raffle.


What to say about this…

I have read some people can ovulate when they are on their period is this not going to cause problems of its own with getting pregnant? As the idea of doing it while I am on my period isn’t something I would want to do, as it would be rather messy and not very enjoyable. Personally I would be worrying about making the sheets dirty with blood and getting blood on my other half…….Unless it was in the shower/bath and even then I don’t find it comfortable doing it while on… Maybe that’s just me?

So what are the signs of ovulation? What should we keep an eye out for?

I would most of all like to know if I am ovulation after having the depo injection as this would show I am slowly getting back to normal and my chances of getting pregnant are higher than they were a few months ago… So the signs I’ve been told to look out for are:

  • Changes in cervical mucus: You are most fertile when your mucus becomes clear, slippery and stretchy. It’s a bit like raw egg white. This fertile mucus speeds the sperm on its way up through your uterus. It protects the sperm as it travels towards your fallopian tubes to meet your egg.
  • Breast Tenderness: Some women experience tenderness in their breasts just before or after ovulation.
  • An ache in your belly: Some women can get a feeling that something is happening in their ovaries around ovulation.  If you notice these sensations at roughly the same time each month
  • Feeling sexy – Feeling sexy, flirty and more of a sexual desire.
  • Looking and feeling great: you’re likely to feel more physically attractive as you near ovulation.

I have also been told its good to keep a record of when you start your period as over time you can work out when you’re likely to be ovulating as it usually happens 10-16 days before the start of your next period.


I have been keeping a record of when I am bleeding. but as I am not yet regular it is not helping with working out when I am ovulating. I use an app called My Days which I have talked about before.


I do notice when I get a change in my cervical mucus, as I’ve said above, it does look/feel a lot like raw egg white and as is rather gooey. (Sounds rather horrible I know…)

I also at times my breasts can get rather tender but this has only been on a few occasions, But have at times put this down to my partner being a little rough…..

So how can you test for Ovulation?

We have been looking into getting a Ovulation Prediction kit, But as there are so many on the market we are unsure which is best? Some we have found are:

The reason we would like to buy a ovulation Prediction kit would be to give us piece of mind that I am ovulating and we do have a chance of getting pregnant. But as they are so expensive would it be better to wait until I’m a year free of the depo injection???

Should it really be this difficult???

We always new that getting pregnant for us was not going to be easy, however, when you look at some people become parents it does make you question things.

We are following the advice, that we are suggesting. Yet still no luck, albeit probably due to the depo injection. But as a couple who are deeply in love, and ready to share it with any child that we conceive.

Then you look at people on Jeremy Kyle and people we all know, who are in dysfunctional relationship and have children to improve the relationship! Its like having children will put a strain on everyday life, so if there are any cracks in the foundations upon which the relationship is based on, these will only magnify and cause a bigger problem.

On top of this there are people who eat junk food, smoke, drink and even do drugs, at yet still manage to get pregnant. Yet we and friends of a similar mindset, eat healthy and avoid smoking and drinking, yet have no luck in conceiving.

I know a lot of our problems are due to the depo, however, I feel there will still be problems, even when it has left my system. So how can it be fair that couples who are willing and capable of being great parents are unable to get pregnant, while people who regret getting pregnant, or have children for the wrong reasons can have a football team of children?

What foods will help us get pregnant???

This blog follows on nicely from my last one about myths and rumours, it’s about the different sorts of foods that can help a couple conceive.

The first thing that seems to come up while researching online, is a large list of things that should be avoided, as they decrease the chance of conception. These are:

  • Cigarettes
  • Alcohol
  • Non-Prescription Drugs
  • Caffeine (tea, coffee, cola, chocolate etc.)
  • Too much Vitamins A, C and D
  • Uncooked Meats and Eggs
  • Soft Cheese
  • Chips
  • Crisps
  • Foods made with white flour
  • Soft drinks and fruit juices

Trans Fats are also something that it is recommended to avoid, as it affects the body’s ability to process sugars, due to its inability to handle insulin. This causes higher blood sugars, which in turn results in decreased fertility. Trans fats are found in a variety of foods, particularly processed and fried foods.

However there is a list of healthy fats sources, which can be eaten and are designed to increase the chance of getting pregnant:

  • Avocados
  • Olives and olive oil
  • Coconut and coconut oil.
  • Fresh, unroasted nuts and seeds (about a handful per day)
  • Wild caught fish
  • Organic eggs

As well as the unhealthy fats, it is also recommended that you avoid processed carbohydrates, again due to the same reason of increased sugar levels.

There are some foods that are naturally rich in complex simple carbohydrates, which are therefore good for the body, and help with fertility:

  • Vegetables
  • Legumes
  • Whole Grain foods
  • Nuts and Seeds

It is also important that you maintain high levels of Folic Acid and Iron, these can be obtained through use of supplements or through a range of foods, such as:

  •  Lentils
  • Chickpeas
  • Asparagus
  • Spinach
  • Broccoli
  • Lima beans
  • Beets
  • Romaine lettuce
  • Oranges
  • Goji berries
  • Spinach
  • Lima beans
  • Lentils
  • Potatoes
  • Navy beans
  • Avocado

So far its all been for the female, here are a few food tips for the men, to help them increase their fertility. The main theme that seems to be running through is that foods that increase in Zinc levels. Foods that have high levels of Zinc are:

  • Oysters
  • Beef
  • Poultry
  • Dairy
  • Nuts
  • Eggs
  • Whole Grains
  • Beans

Also anti-oxidants are always beneficial to eat, as they detox the system, however, when trying to get your partner pregnant, they are even better and help with his fertility. Anti-oxidant foods and those which contain vitamins A, C and E, all of which help increase the male fertility:

  • Cranberries
  • Dried Fruit
  • Pomegranates
  • Leafy Greens
  • Carrots
  • Red Peppers
  • Apricots
  • Orange Juice
  • Tomatoes
  • Grapefruit
  • Broccoli
  • Sweet Potatoes
  • Nuts and Seeds

Like with females, there are foods that men should avoid, as they will decrease his fertility. These are:

  • Fatty foods
  • High sugar foods
  • High Mercury fish (swordfish, king mackerel, tilefish, tuna steak and shark)
  • Coffee
  • Alcohol
  • Non-prescription Drugs

Here are a few things that we have found online. I hope they help you conceive. If you have any suggestions, feel free to comment.

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